First of all, I’d like to apologize for using AI to write this post. I’m not a native English speaker, and this community seemed like the best place to get informed and honest answers, so I used ChatGPT to translate what I wanted to say.
I’d like to start by explaining why I’m so concerned about the possibility of infertility, because it requires a bit of my personal story.
I have naturally curly hair, and ever since I was a kid, people made fun of me for it. They would say it looked like pubic hair and make all kinds of jokes. It hurt me a lot. The worst part is that, looking back at old pictures, my hair didn’t even look bad—it was actually pretty nice. But because of the bullying, I grew up hating it and wishing it were straight.
Over time, I stopped taking care of my hair because I believed it would never look good as long as it was curly. Then, in 2023, I went through one of the hardest periods of my life. Over the course of about nine months, I lost a huge amount of hair. I can’t prove that stress caused it, but it was the first time I had ever experienced such an overwhelming situation, so I can’t help wondering if it played a role.
Since then, the hair loss has continued. This year, though, I finally started taking proper care of my hair. I found products that work for curly hair, and for the first time in my life, I actually love how it looks. I’ve even been getting compliments from friends and other people.
The problem is that I’ve already lost a significant amount of hair, and now that I’ve finally learned to like it, it feels like I’m losing it.
So I started looking into treatment. But while researching, I found a lot of discussions about finasteride and dutasteride possibly affecting fertility. Honestly, that scares me much more than going bald.
More than anything, I want to have a family and children someday. I don’t think having hair is worth risking my ability to become a father.
The only thing I really want is to keep my hair until I get married, or at least until I meet someone. If anyone knows of a treatment that can simply slow down or significantly reduce hair loss without using medications that may affect fertility, I’d really appreciate the advice. I don’t need to regrow the hair I’ve already lost—I just want to keep what I still have.