Hi guys, I am currently 28 years old and I’ve been balding since I was around 22-is (I’m currently around NW5-6 so full recovery isn’t really an option). The thing is, I do want to go to hippie/boho festivals; and from what I have been able to gather, long hair in those circles is fetishized quite heavily.
So my question, could I wear a high-quality hair system just for festivals/raves (I am legit fine being bald in my ‘everday life’, it just bothers me for these specific raves/festivals), and would it matter if girls were to touch/grab my hair? I don’t really know the limits of what a hair system can and can’t withstand. I’ve already made a post on /r/hairsystem with the consensus ‘yeah, just go ahead and wear a system to festivals, it’s fine. Just maintain it properly’ and /r/psytrance with the consensus ‘yeah, go ahead. Nobody’s gonna police you or anything. Just embrace how you want to look’.
I’ve also asked ChatGPT a few times (and by a ‘few’ I mean like 2000+ times on various custom GPTs and models), and around 80% of the time it said “Yeah go ahead, it’s fine” and 20% of the time it said “You CAN try it, but it’s a massive risk and liability”. So I do want to know from you guys if it’s fine to wear a hair system just for raves/festivals; can I wear them?
Regarding the question, quality hair systems are often indistinguishable. I have not worn one (and don’t plan to even if I go bald) but that is what I see and hear. So you will likely be fine if they don’t pull it. Now if they try to pull it, that is not something I know and cannot definitively answer.
HOWEVER; on an other hand, those who would leave you for your hair or disrespect/dislike you are not even worth the value a single hair strand of hair had when you were NW0. In layman’s terms, imagine a single hair strand when you had a full head of hair, exactly that is the amount those people should matter to you. If I were you, I would not go those places. Not to disrespect but to me that means an act of dishonor, perhaps an act of not having a spine, not to say you don’t have a spine but just like I cannot fucking do it. Those motherfuckers will try to shame you and laugh at you and you wanna be around them, ditch them. I legit swear to god I would go bald and be proud rather than to do what you plan/want to do, but obviously that is your life. You can be bald but still be proud, DHT (and sometimes other androgens) can kill your hair follicles if you are genetically sensitive but it does not kill your cognitive faculties and neurology . No androgen in the world eliminates your honor and self-respect, despite its huge impacts on one’s psychology-self esteem. No androgen can shame you, disrespect you. Seriously consider this, do you want to go to places where people will laugh at you? I mean I am balding myself and I would not but I don’t think the average guy or gal there will like your NW5 scalp if they are so much into hair, as you mention. I have never had any interest in hippi squares so I have to rely on what you say for their opinions on hair but if it is really the way you tell, then honestly go find a new place for socialization my man.
Tbh, I’m not actually trying to date those girls, I just care more about hookups at those festivals. And the thing is, bald isn’t really ‘shamed’ or ‘disrepected’ in these scenes at all; in fact bald guys can be seen as ‘wise’ and ‘shamanic’. But from what I have been able to gather (both from ChatGPT, first-hand experiences and from interviews I’ve done myself at these spaces), long hair is a lot more fetishized than being bald even if bald guys still get respected. It’s pretty much the difference between ‘the respected monk she shares a joint with at 10PM’ and the ‘tantric shaman that she has an energy exchange with at 3AM’
If people do anything with your version with a full head of hair, my advice for you would be to ditch them. They are not up for you but your hair. Obviously, I understand you don’t wanna think deep and that is just my two cents.